Unstated Truths and HR Jurisprudence

I think it is tacitly agreed that HR (Human Resources group) in any company should refrain from using any kind of language or do anything that can even be mildly construed as amounting to a special treatment of an individual. Because, a view that an individual is getting special attention might lead to all kinds of complications. Others might get offended and sue the company for preferential treatment on any number of charges ranging from sexual harassment to racial, religious, gender or any other type of discrimination.

Now this is all good but robs the "personal touch" from the company. One of the greatest promoters of loyalty is to feel wanted by the company. This kind of impersonal tone creates an undefinable wall between the company (as represented by HR) and the individual.

A case in point is the HR manager of one of the companies that I worked for. Whenever she does a favor to me, she goes out of the way to make it clear that this favor was extended to me not because i am special in any way but because i happen to be an employee of the company. No doubt, she was heeding the clearly laid out injunctions of her supervisors. Though I do appreciate her honesty, it would be nice if I can think that people are viewing me specially because of either some skills that I am bringing to the table or due to the position that I am in or due to the goodness of my heart or what have you.

It may be a honest truth that my HR Manager is stating. But it is far nicer if she just did not state it. She does not have to lie and state that she is doing me a favor. But not stating a truth should not be confused with suppression of truth. Every truth in the world does not have to be stated. Let us say I am walking on a street and see a stranger. It is true that since this person is a stranger to me, I won't probably trust him with a $100 note or love him as much as I love my family. But this truth is better left unstated. Going out of my way to actually state it is in my opinion totally unwarranted, irksome and offensive.. What say?